thinking abt a friend, n thinking abt r/s...
daRlin9 is definitely right, never be too kind to guys.
but Peng, i believe u remember wat i said: instead of seeing wat one didnt do, try to appreciate wat one has done. i noe u keep my words in mind, n u hav been doing it well.
most ppl cant see e efforts others hav put in, coz they r expecting sth else. when wat one is expecting doesnt arrive, one gets disappointment n may follow by annoyed. why shd one expect sth in the first place? maybe due to the signal that we gave, some actions or kind gestures that we gave in the past. Expectations will only go higher n higher, it is never lower n lower even if one gets older.
Gets it for the first time, feel great; second time, feel good; 3rd time, feel "as normal", 4th time, "bored n there shd be sth else better". if theres one time doesnt get it, "WHY U DIDNT DO SO?"
When one fallen in luv, (s)he tends to forget abt giving,n her/his mind is all abt taking, n that make her/him getting more n more demanding. the deeper u luv one, the more demanding u will be. u will start asking ur partner y (s)he didnt show concerns to u, instead of noticing the breads that (s)he bought for u from ur fave bakery, instead of thinking wat to buy her/him for breakfast tmr.
Luv is blind,
at the beginning, u can only see wat u want to see on ur partner. u cant see the flaws of ur partner though ur friends hav been pointing out to u;
on the road to marriage, u can only see urself, n only the "good"-self. u cant see ur flaws, n u cant see ur partner's kindness.
Do u agree? if u dun, make sure u dun. n it is definitely good! and things will work well on u:)
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Thanks sparrow for your comforting words and good advice. somehow, u have always been the best person to talk to. i always feel so much better and manage to see the other side of the picture after listening to you. lucky got u. - peng
Not agreeing... In r/s, it's always a two way traffic. If you restrain from being good to the guy, in recipocate, the guy will not be good to you.
To love, just love freely, truely and daringly. It's a risk, yes. Someone may be hurt, yes. But it's also unfair to hold back. Unfair to expect more and do less. Just my point of view.
Dear Pinky, hope u enjoy e charity dinner tonite, mi didnt join coz went back home. Giv mi a greenlight or a call when u feel good to:)
Dear alien, ya i noe it is unfair, kinda talk abt it b4... but for some gals, we tend to over-do it, not juz kind but too kind, n hence we would expect the same from others, which is not right... n that hurt us eventually... pinky is one kind who will luv all e way, but not all guys deserve such selfless luv...
Hi Sparrow, no we didn't go for the charity dinner. instead just chatted over drinks at coffeeclub. it was gd to catch up with the gals.
well, it is definitely not wise to be too nice, cos no challenges for the guys.
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